Jeepers Ernie!! This is hectic. I wanted to share the story of my brother with you, but will rather not. Just know I share in your pain. Condolences. One thinks family/siblings will be there for you , but they can be the most underhanded fahrktwarts out there, back stabbing coniving SOB's. My dad passed 16 years ago, and I have not seen or spoken to my siblings since.
I am actually fuming right now. So sorry buddy.